After prostate treatment, he assumed that chapter was over

After his prostate procedure, James filed intimacy under “the cost of still being here” — a trade he'd accept again. His wife never complained. That almost made it worse.

The assumption that wasn't true

At a follow-up, almost as an aside, his urologist asked whether he'd considered treatment. James was surprised the question even applied to him. Response varies case by case after prostate treatment — but “varies” is a very different word than “over.”

What he'd tell other men

“I spent two years assuming, when asking one question would have done it.” James's path ran through his own specialist — for other men it starts with a telehealth intake. Either way, his point stands: after a major treatment, the question is worth asking someone licensed to answer it.